“It is probably not love that makes the world go around, but rather those mutually supportive alliances through which partners recognize their dependence on each other for the achievement of shared and private goals.”
How would you feel if you could increase your ability to reach challenging goals and find supportive relationships in your life?
Seeking the support you need is an important aspect of success, and is a skill that can be learned. Asking for help sometimes shows up in our lives as weakness, but the reality is that alone we cannot do it all! When you identify partners, who can become an integral element in our path to success, such alliances will result in working smarter for greater results. Not a bad outcome!
Supportive partnerships — alliances that add value — go beyond networking, as it includes those people you can rely on to lend you a hand, and to whom you are committed to supporting in similar ways. It involves sharing skills and abilities, and includes a two-way street for giving and getting what you need to achieve your goals.
Following are some ideas that you may want to use to create those powerful alliances that can support your long-term objectives.
- Know what you want to accomplish and who may be able to support you to reach your goals.
Being clear about what you want to achieve makes it easier to identify who can best provide you the help you need. Clarity of purpose and a clear vision of the desired outcome allows you to best communicate to others where you can use some help.
- Identify people, either at your workplace, or in your community, who have the needed skills, knowledge and abilities that can supplement your own skills to achieve your goals.
Having a good awareness of your own strengths, what you like to do, and where you can use help to achieve your goals is a necessary step to find the best support network.
- Determine which of your own skills can be shared with others without a lot of extra work.
Sometimes we forget that what comes easily to us may not be as simple to others. Here is a helpful definition of a developed skill — it comes to you naturally and it does not take a lot of effort. Once you have this list ready, then it becomes easier to volunteer to support others in their goal achievement without depleting your energy.
- Develop a strategy to approach people at work or in your community who have those skills and abilities that you may not have, but that are important to achieve your goals.
Create formal or informal partnerships with them in order to increase your effectiveness and reach objectives. These are win-win associations that can make your life easier and a lot more pleasant. And these alliances can also become lasting friendships that sustain you in your career and life.
“If you do not seek out allies and helpers, then you will be isolated and weak.” Sun Tzu, “The Art of War”
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